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10 Months In – Sibling Jealousy Has Arrived!

Dealing With Sibling Jealousy

When we first brought baby home from the hospital we were expecting some toddler jealousy. Mainly because I was still breastfeeding my 14 month old toddler when the baby arrived. Turns out, I was completely SHOCKED at the lack of it. Sure, we had the occasional moments of toddler wanting more attention. All of a sudden she wanted baby’s pacifier, or when she needed the immediate attention, the fingers went to the back of the throat to gag herself – which scared mommy half to death each time. But despite that, it was nothing too bad. In fact, we were really happy how easily the transition was and wondered if the sibling jealousy would ever come…

Well…..10 months later, it has arrived! 

Most of the time the girls are great together. My toddler (now 2 years old), wants to hug and kiss the baby (now 10 mo), they play together, share toys (for the most part), make each other laugh….

Dealing With Sibling Jealousy

Well that was until recently. There have been some smaller moments of not wanting to share mama. They both now need to be in the ‘center’ of my lap CONSTANTLY. I only have two hands and one lap, so you can imagine this scene. I try to appease both until one winds up smacking the other in the face or one pushes the other out of my lap. The baby is just as guilty of this as my toddler.

But the one thing that has started happening, the thing that has started making me and my husband giggle just a little, and the reason why I was inspired to write this post started happening.

My toddler has seen me nurse the baby thousands upon thousands of times since baby was born. She’s never once had a moment of regression where she tried to nurse again, and this was from the moment the baby come home….But now? Now, she is climbing into my lap, assumes the nursing position, points to her mouth and says “baby food”. That’s what we tell her when she sees mommy nursing baby. We say the baby is eating “baby food”. So now, my toddler wants her “baby food”! EEK!

So, after months of sibling bliss, wondering if this day would ever come, we are finally here. It has definitely made my days extra hard. I know it’s just one of those things that I have to truck through until they learn and adjust to, like most things in motherhood!

Any experiences with sibling jealousy with two so close in age?


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  • Reply
    Stephanie Hestbeck
    May 27, 2014 at 7:02 am

    Mine are starting to do the same types of things now. They are just about the same age too, my oldest little boy is almost 2 and the twins are 11 months. Everyone wants mommy’s attention all the time! lol
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      August 15, 2014 at 4:04 pm

      Stephanie, yes mommy is in full demand! It still has not let up in my house.

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    August 14, 2014 at 9:48 am

    Oh goodness the sibling jealousy is fully alive and growing in my house. I never got to nurse my oldest who is now 4 years old but have nursed my baby since day one who is 11 months now. I thought the brotherly love and rivalry would start from day one. Oh no. It started out as the older one wanted nothing to do with the baby. Now he teeter totters. One hour he will love and kiss the baby the next he’s pushing him over and yelling at him for touching his toys. The baby is a slapper which I’m trying to get him out of but it’s harder than I thought. He slaps his older brother but luckily it’s not too hard it’s just a swat. It breaks my heart watching my little one hold his own hand and cry because his big brother took the toy he was playing with. It’s rough but we’re pushing through lol

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      August 15, 2014 at 4:04 pm

      Yes Kira, I completely get it. My baby is getting stronger and so her baby slaps to her big sister aren’t so fun anymore. lol

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    August 15, 2014 at 1:19 am

    My daughter is 3 and at now that my son is 10 months, she has started to just lift up my shirt and point while signing for milk with her hands. She was weaned at her own pace by 18 months and is just now starting to act like this! The weirdest thing!

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      August 15, 2014 at 4:03 pm

      Erika it’s so funny, sorta like they want to regress. My toddler pretends to crawl now sometimes like her baby sister. ha

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