6 Things New Moms Really Want and Need + (5) Massager Giveaway

what new moms really want after they have a baby

I can’t tell you how many times I have wished for just one of these things to happen right after I had my babies. If you know someone who has just had a baby and you’re looking for something special to do for them, forget the card or the stuffed animals, why not give one of these instead? Motherhood is an extremely exciting and wonderful time, but it’s also very hard and challenging.

If you are looking for something special to do for a new mother then consider these 6 things below. 

what new moms really want after they have a baby

1. Make some meals for her OR stock her pantry up with quick and easy meals

I remember when I had my first baby. All I wanted to do was lounge around and cozy up with my little one and rest. Big, homemade meals weren’t on the menu for quite some time. Easy lunch meals and snacks are great, consider sending a gift basket with things that your new mom likes. I love the quick and easy meals. Some of my favorites for lunch were soups, tuna sandwiches, fruits, cheese and sunbutter and jam on crackers. I also had a friend prepare home-cooked dinners and then froze them for me. It was the best. If you look on Pinterest for Freezer Meals you will find so many amazing recipes! Another great gift idea is the Instapot. You can read how the Instapot has changed our family meal plan here. 

2. Gift the gift of massage

Becoming a new mother has all sorts of challenges. Not only is your body physically undergoing changes but mentally you are also adjusting. Your new mom might be stressing a little, have feelings of being overwhelmed, maybe some anxiety or stress. Having a baby is life changing and a huge adjustment. Your new mom might want to be homebound for the next few weeks but that shouldn’t stop her from enjoying an amazing massage.

I have this Deep Kneading Massager and it’s absolutely amazing. (see below for a giveaway)

what new moms really want after they have a baby

This massager has 4 different controls, 8 kneading heads that can be heated, three speeds and goes in different directions. It contours to your feet, neck, back and legs and my favorite part of it all is that it has arm straps so that you can control the amount of pressure you need just by pushing down in the straps. It comes with a car adapter so you better believe I have taken it with me to run errands.  True story. 😀

3. Stock Her up on Paper or Plastics

Using a lot of dishes now will mean lots of dishes to clean later. After learning with our first, one of the things we did with our second was stock up on paper plates, cups and utensils right before our second baby was born and it helped tremendously. We didn’t have to worry about dishes stacking up in the sink while we fought dozing off due to lack of sleep.

4. Clean her home or hire a housekeeper

I can’t say how HUGE this one is for me. The last thing a new mom wants to do is feel overwhelmed because the laundry or dishes are piling up. My mom was able to come over to help clean the house a couple of times and you don’t know how much of a relief this was for me. It’s almost like you’re hitting the refresh button, even if it’s just one time. The last few weeks of pregnancy are hard. Mom is tired and exhausted, probably hurting and most likely there wasn’t a lot of cleaning done then. So after baby, the last thing you want is for mom to feel like there’s no end to the mess. Even if you clean the house just once, it’s like hitting the refresh button allowing mom to play catch up. If you can’t physically clean her home then consider hiring a housekeeper for her for the first month or even someone to come once a month for the first few months.

5.  Offer to Babysit

Offer to babysit any older children if there are any. I know first hand how hard it is trying to nurse a newborn while a 15-month old trying is also using you as a human jungle gym. If your new mom has other children, offer to help out by taking the older children out for a little while, or just come over to help watch them. The first few weeks with a newborn is an extremely important bonding time for mom and baby.

6. Acknowledgement

Over Mother’s Day this past year I came across an article titled New Research Shows What Moms Really Want for Mother’s Day and it said that most new millennial moms would like to receive the acknowledgement from family and friends that they’re doing a good job, rather than flowers. So why not send mom some encouraging words of support during the first few weeks, even a simple text that she’s doing a great job could go along way.




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  • Reply
    August 23, 2013 at 12:27 am

    These are great ideas. All new moms need some extra care after what they go through 🙂

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    Stormy Gonzalez
    August 23, 2013 at 12:36 am

    All of these totally applied! Cleaning, is the main one. Or like … at least not to ADD to the mess! I actually wished I had a giant thing of hand santitizer at my bedside too. Sooooo many people came to visit, and it was like … germ-city.

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    Tough Cookie Mommy
    August 23, 2013 at 1:22 am

    Oh my goodness, these are some great tips not only for new moms but for moms in general. I can’t even tell you how backed up I am on the laundry right now. I wish somebody would come clean my house and lend me a helping hand.

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    Growing Up Madison
    August 23, 2013 at 4:46 am

    I would have wanted them all. I had a c-section and I was tired. Hubby did help out but it would have been great to go to a spa. 🙂

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    Terry (My Journey With Candida)
    August 23, 2013 at 6:17 am

    When I had my Daughter, I was living away from all my family members and I didn’t know anyone in Brooklyn, NY. My Hubs was in the sevrice so he wasn’t home a lot either. I would have welcomed any of these tips you mentioned.

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    August 23, 2013 at 8:08 am

    I am all about bringing over food for the new parents ! Also a BabyBundle or breastfeedingBundle filled with goodies for them and baby is always a welcome surprise from http://www.babybumpbundle.com !

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    August 23, 2013 at 8:20 am

    I especially love number 1. I wish someone would have done that for me when I had my son! It’s quite a challenge to cook something when you are exhausted and would actually rather spend time starring at your little one 😉

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    Sarah Bailey
    August 23, 2013 at 10:36 am

    What fantastic ideas – I’ll keep these in minds for when friends have babies 🙂 x

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    August 23, 2013 at 11:02 am

    So very true! I would have loved ANY of these things!!

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    Dawn ~ Spatulas On Parade
    August 23, 2013 at 11:19 am

    Great ideas. When my kids were born, we had lots of calls and visits. Only after my third did anyone do anything for us, and it was nice.

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    Angela Addington
    August 23, 2013 at 2:43 pm

    We just got a gift certificate to a spa for a friend of our who is set to deliver later this month! What a perfect way to help her relax and let her body get back to pre-baby condition.

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    August 23, 2013 at 3:55 pm

    Great tips and advice and I will have to remember these. When I had my kids, it was just my husband and myself 2,000 miles away from our families. Boy could have I used some gifts like these.

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    Kim @ 2justByou
    August 23, 2013 at 10:19 pm

    These are all great ways to spoil a mommy, new or not! =0)
    Hope you’ve gotten spoiled a little more lately!

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    Cynthia L.
    August 24, 2013 at 2:18 pm

    Such fantastic tips! I would have loved the house cleaning one!

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    August 25, 2013 at 5:46 pm

    All amazing ideas!! Especially for single moms or moms whose other halves work all day! Even a simple visit is a boost…. never just assume they’ve enough on their plate… they need adult conversation

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    August 26, 2013 at 3:20 am

    Oh yes! I definitely love these ideas! You might laugh and maybe this has to do with me being a first time mom and not really feeling comfortable leaving my son with anyone but his Daddy, but I went to a spa (because my husband got me a gift card) after I had the baby for Mother’s Day and the entire time I was thinking about the baby and when I came back to Daddy’s office (because the Spa was in a huge gym facility that my husband managed) baby was crying his eyes out for me. If I went back, he would definitely have to stay with Daddy! The other points are totally a must for a new mom for sure! Thanks for linking up with Mommy Monday again! Loved reading your tips!

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    October 16, 2013 at 11:02 am

    Great ideas! I’ve had all but the spa day and babysitting since I just had my first little one 2 months ago.

    Here are a few additional things I really appreciated.
    – Offer to clean her house while they’re at the hospital. A couple of my friends told me to let them know when I was in labor and to give them a key. It was amazing to come home to a clean house, flowers, and packet of baby socks! They later told me it was fun to try to piece together all the activity that happened at home prior to going to the hospital. 🙂
    -Prepare healthy snacks. A friend brought over cut up fruit and veggies. Meals are very appreciated, but throughout the day I snacked. I loved having healthy options that I could grab and eat while I was feeding him.
    -Gift cards. Maternity leave can do some damage to your finances, especially if you’re taking more time off than what your company will pay for. We used restaurant cards for days we didn’t feel like cooking. Grocery store and Target cards were also really helpful.
    – Offer to come hold the baby for an hour or two. I didn’t want this right away because I just wanted to be with my baby. After about 6 weeks, I was itching to get my house cleaned and go for a run or do anything that made me feel like a normal and capable human being. By 6 weeks, my baby was awake quite a bit more and I couldn’t put him down as easily as I could before. My mother in law offered to come a few days a week after work to hold him so I could do some things I wanted/needed to do. It has been great!

    Thanks for writing this post to help new mommas!

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      October 17, 2013 at 7:54 pm

      Annie, congrats on your new arrival! I know what you mean about the coming over to hold the baby for a little while. I take full advantage when we have visitors, all they want to do is hold my daughter, and then I will disappear for a little while, I will run to put a load of clothes, or pickup the toys or start sweeping. haha. Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting. I enjoy reading all of them. 🙂

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    June 26, 2017 at 1:21 pm

    These are so right on. For me, grocery delivery and my Instant Pot saved me in the first few months. So did the pre-prepped section of my HEB. I seriously get emotional when I think about how I can walk into a grocery store these days and access healthy food that’s already been cleaned and sliced for me. All I have to do is assemble and it’s kept me from living off of processed crap. Great ideas!

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