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I always worry whether or not I am raising my children right. If I’m a good mother, how could I be better? We just recently found out we were expecting our 3rd little one and I was flooded with so many emotions during those first few weeks. Why did I have so many fears? I couldn’t really explain it, I didn’t know why, this baby was completely planned and wanted, and yet I still felt a little doubt when I finally found out. Not doubt in wanting a child, but doubt in myself. Will I be enough? Will I have enough of myself to give all my children?
I worry now with two if I’m doing an ok job. I find myself thinking DAILY…. am I spending enough time with them? Do I play with them enough? Am I teaching them the right things? Do I read to them enough? Am I letting them watch too much TV? Am I too busy? And the list can go on and on.
I was talking to my mother about this the other day, because I expressed to her my fears and she said something that really put things into perspective. She said, because you love your children so much, you will always worry, you will always worry about whether or not you’re doing enough for them. But a mother’s love goes far, your children know you love them, they feel it. And it’s ok to worry and maybe even sometimes feel regret about some things. You’re a mother and it’s natural. This is something you will probably feel all your life. And as they get older, the fears and worries that you have now will turn into new worries and fears. But it’s natural, and it doesn’t mean you’re not doing enough. The fears and worries stem from a deep deep place in your heart, that only a parent could feel, and the minute you stop caring about whether or not you’re doing enough, is probably when you should worry.
My mom is so wise. 🙂 And her words made so much sense to me and our conversation put me at peace. My mom’s always been this way, she’s so supportive and loving and it made me realize that, she had the same fears and worries as me when my siblings and I were little. Yet, growing up all I remember was a home filled with love and support. I don’t ever remember feeling left out, or that she was too busy or that she didn’t read to me enough….all I remember is the love. And that put everything into perspective. You’re doing better than you think moms. 🙂
You have to check out this heartfelt video from the people at Minute Maid. It made me teary-eyed watching it. Share it with the friends and family in your life who could use a reminder that they, too, are doing a great job as a parent.
And now to think there will be more laughter in the mix. We can’t wait to meet the newest member of our family.